Anonymous said: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and we are both seniors in high school. He has been discerning the priesthood for awhile and it's been very hard on me; he went on a retreat 9-27 and got to meet the priest who wrote the book "To Save a Thousand Souls". He now feels an increase in the call. I love him very much and will support him no matter what he becomes. I am trying to put God's will first but it has been very hard and I keep crying over it. Any advice? Please pray for me too.
Hello and thank you for the question! Just this morning I was reading a book by Peter Kreeft titled, “Prayer for Beginners.” I feel called to share a few lines from Chapter 15 (“Sufferings”) with you as an answer. Mr. Kreeft writes the following: "If you truly love someone, you do not love him as a means to the end of your own happiness. What you love is not your happiness, or your freedom from suffering, but him…"
To truly love someone means that you want his greatest good and happiness, which ultimately means the salvation of his soul and his union with God in heaven. As St. Paul says, love is “not self-seeking.” God promises us happiness, but He doesn’t promise that the path to that happiness will be easy.
Love - to be real - has to be free and has to give freedom. No one can “force” you to love someone else, and your love for another person has to allow them complete freedom in following the plan of God for their life.
Remember, love is NOT a sentiment or feeling. Love is a heroic act of the will to do whatever will be best for the other. Love is not easy. Christ gives us the greatest example of love - dying for us on the Cross. Ask Him - the Author of Love - to help you love purely, freely, and truly.
Trust in Christ and count on my prayers. ~Christiane